Friday, January 7, 2011

I actually do love you


I was thinking about relationships the other day and how easily our society goofs it up. We (I'm especially referring to young people) are so quick to fall in love or to tell someone we love them.

I am often tempted to do the same, but then I realized this - it is not romantic love that I am feeling for this person, but a deep respect and a grateful appreciation, even admiration. But in today's society, we are conditioned to interpret every affection, whether respect, thanks or admiration, into romantic love. This is a handicap that is crippling and confusing our young people, causing much heart ache and brokenness. It's times like this that I wish the English language was not so limited in our expression of affection.

So next time you are drawn to a person, ask yourself - "What do I appreciate about this person?" "Do they need encouragement?" "What is better, romantic love that is only fleeting or real love that impacts everyone around it?". Before you tell someone you love them (even in a friendship situation) consider questing for an expression more meaningful that a fleeting "I love you". I challenge you to determine those in your life whom you respect, admire, appreciate or learn from and tell them.

In the wise words of Zach Galifianakis, "You better check yourself before you wreck yourself".